Last Tuesday I dragged myself out of bed at the crack of dawn, for that bloody 9am lecture that, every uni student dreads. Yes I was sitting there, eyelids heavier than lead. I have never in my life fallen asleep in school or uni before, but that could have been the day, I swear. Anyways, I learnt something amazing that I really want to share with anyone that bothers to read this post. It's all about body language - not how our body language makes others think and feel towards us, but how it can make us think and feel differently about ourselves.
I'm gonna get all scientific on y'all now. Being happy leads to us smiling, but it also works the other way round - forcing ourselves to smile makes us feel happier. In a nutshell, our facial expressions contribute to what emotion we are feeling, just as much as that emotion contributes to what's happening on our faces.
It works the same way with body language - we open ourselves up when we feel dominant and powerful - our testosterone (dominance hormone) is high, and our cortisol (stress hormone) is low. When we feel insecure and unsafe are cortisol levels are high and our testosterone is low - we close our bodies up.
This is were the 'Power Poses' come into play. Power poses are all kinds of amazing - just sit or stand with your body opened up, and even after just two minutes your testosterone will shoot straight up, and that nasty little stress hormone will be pushed way way down.
Power Pose - Opening Body Up With Arms In The Air
Okay, they do look a little silly, I'll admit that. Pop to the toilets while your waiting for you job interview and sneakily Power Pose in secret. Those other candidates sat there with their bodies all closed up, looking at their phones, reciting their answers in their head, raising their cortisol and dropping their testosterone - they ain't gonna stand a chance against you.
Power Pose before any situation where you might be scrutinized or judged, or you just wanna feel powerful. Just two minutes!
Power Pose - Opening Body Up With Hand On Waist
But, this all feels fake right? Just fake it! Fake who you want to be in that interview, fake who you want to come off as to that person you're so scared to talk to, fake being powerful and confident, fake it, fake it, fake it. And don't just fake it till you make it. Fake it until you become it - because you will.
I would really recommend giving this video a watch. I've pretty much written out the main message Amy Cuddy is trying to get across, but it's such a powerful video and she probably explains everything much better than I have - watch it till the end, you won't be disappointed!